Saying "thank you" may be a simple way to boost marital happiness, new research suggests.This cycle of appreciation may also make for longer-lasting relationships."Feeing appreciated by your partner influences how you act in your relationship, and how much you want to stay in that relationship," study researcher Amie Gordon, of the University of California, Berkeley, told LiveScience. "Instead of just waiting for the other person to make you feel good, you can jumpstart that cycle and take it into your own hands by focusing on what's good in your relationship."The researchers examined about 50 undergraduate participants who had been in relationships for about 15 months, having them fill out a questionnaire nightly for a week about their relationship, and how appreciated they felt and how appreciative they were toward their partner. Nine months later the study participants were given another survey asking about their relationship.On days when people reported feeling more appreciated, … [Read more...] about Simple Way to Boost Marital Happiness? Say ‘Thank You’
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Darkness Cannot Drive Out Darkness Martin Luther King, Jr. said famously, "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that." This is a mantra that I rely on to incinerate negativity with kindness and light. Try reciting these words the next time you are tempted to drive out hate with more hate. We all know how negativity eats you up from the inside out. It is a toxic emotion that wreaks havoc on your system by raising cortisol and decreasing vagal tone. Deep breathing is always the first line of defense to maintain an evenness of temper and break the cycle of fighting negativity with more negativity. Another trick that I use to maintain equanimity and evenness of temper when being treated negatively is to remember Joseph Campbell and The Power of Myth. In every person’s journey you will face people who test your ability to remain magnanimous. Throughout the various stages of the “Monomyth” on the … [Read more...] about Simple Ways to Turn Negativity into Self-Nourishment
WISH losing weight was so simple you could do it in your sleep? Well, it turns out you can. Sleep is one of the single most important factors when it comes to shedding pounds. Getting enough shut eye helps blitz body fat - by curbing cravings, keeping your appetite in check and giving you the energy to move more. What's more, a bad night's sleep can alter the way the body responds to food, leaving you in a vicious cycle. The less you sleep, the more weight you gain, and the more weight you gain, the harder it is to sleep. Here, we look at the main ways getting a good kip can help you lose weight quicker and why the 'sleep diet' might be the weight loss tool for you...1. Sleep more, eat less Getting no sleep significantly increases your appetite - and the result is typically scoffing more calories and watching the scales creep up. It's all down to two 'hunger hormones' - ghrelin and leptin. Ghrelin is released after the brain signals the stomach is empty, while leptin is released … [Read more...] about Lose weight faster with the ‘sleep diet’ – how shut eye helps you burn fat
Not so long ago, my post-work routine looked like this: After a particularly grueling day, I’d sit on the couch and veg for hours, doing my version of “Netflix and chill,” which meant keeping company with a cold pint of ice cream. I knew the ice cream, and the sitting, were probably a bad idea, but I told myself this was my well-deserved “reward” for working so hard. Psychological researchers have a name for this phenomenon: it’s called “ego depletion.” The theory is that willpower is connected to a limited reserve of mental energy, and once you run out of that energy, you’re more likely to lose self-control. This theory would seem to perfectly explain my after-work indulgences. But new studies suggest that we’ve been thinking about willpower all wrong, and that the theory of ego depletion isn’t true. Even worse, holding on to the idea that willpower is a limited resource can actually be bad for you, making you more … [Read more...] about The Way You Think About Willpower Is Hurting You
Source: www.stocksy.com If you’re someone who practices positive psychology and wellbeing and shares these approaches with others, it seems reasonable to hope that one of the perks of your work would be to more consistently flourish. After all you’re immersed in the research, you’re more likely to know what works and chances are you're making a positive difference as you share these ideas with others. So why might positive psychology practitioners be burning out? “My data suggests about a third of wellbeing practitioners have higher levels of stress and depression than you’d hope given our field studies the practices of human flourishing,” explained Louis Alloro change-agent, culture-strategist and senior fellow at the Center for the Advancement of Wellbeing when I interviewed him recently. “In our hunger to make a difference it seems many of us are forgetting that we’re human beings, not human doings.” Louis … [Read more...] about Is Positive Psychology Burning You Out?